Thursday, 1 November 2007

Fallibility

No one is infallible, of course (well, unless we count the Pope, but let's not go there, this isn't a blog about religion). The rest of us live in a world where we all make mistakes, whether we're male or female.

So how does a woman reconcile a man's inevitable infallibility with her need to see him as someone more capable and more knowledgeable than she is? How does she remain confident in his judgment once she sees him use poor judgment? What defines a simple mistake versus a general lack of maturity?

I wrestle with this myself...I am hard on myself in life and I'm hard on others too. And if I see a man make a bad decision, I find my respect for him chipping away. I worry that he isn't capable of being a leader and I become wary of following his lead. But I'm not sure that's fair. After all, everyone makes mistakes...no matter how dominant they are.

So the question is, how do I trust his judgment again? How do I trust that he knows he made a mistake and will learn from it going forward? How do I continue to confidently follow his lead? How do I know that it was a simple mistake and not a sign of a bigger problem?

2 comments:

JintpC said...

First let me compliment you on your interesting and articulate blog.

I would use a historical analogy here. Abraham Lincoln is considered by many to be our greatest president. He kept the country unified and abolished slavery. However, he made many tactical mistakes in the process. The Civil War would have ended two years sooner had he chosen better generals. In fact, many historians believe he did not expect to be re-elected in 1864. What made him a great leader was his consistent and unwavering adherence to his basic principles despite the many problems (and bad decisions) along the way.

If you share the same basic principles and worldview with a man, and he consistently adheres to those principles, the “tactical errors” along the way are not cause for concern.

Anonymous said...

Hello, I found your blog through C's Correction, and there is a very good post on there about this subject - http://rncblog.blogspot.com/2007/10/essay-when-hoh-does-something-wrong.html#links

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